On Breaking Free from Self-Doubt
Are you feeling stuck in that hamster wheel of life, like you’re capable of so much more but not quite sure how to break free? I feel you. I’ve been there, and that way of living is utterly exhausting.
The routines can be so draining— you wake up, be a mom, work, be a mom some more, and repeat. And the weekends where sleep just evaporates, and the wine seems to flow a little too liberally? They only make your Monday mornings feel all the more like Mount Everest.
But you know what? Deep down, I know there’s a fire within you, a capacity for change, and the potential to feel something so much more meaningful. You long for more adventure, creativity, and freedom, if only you could break out of the cycle of always pleasing everyone else first instead of yourself. I’ve been there, and I know the keys that will unlock that freedom and joy we all want to feel in our lives.
Let's Talk About Self-Doubt
Self-doubt is the sneaky little voice in our heads telling us we're not good enough, that we'll never measure up. It’s like a relentless shadow, following us wherever we go and always whispering, “I can’t” or, “I shouldn’t.” Self-doubt keeps us trapped in a cage of fear and anxiety, and if we're not careful, it will lock us out from ever reaching our full potential.
I believe deep down that our self-doubts mean well, and they come from an inherently good place. Our self-doubts are really trying to protect us and keep us from getting hurt, probably because we have been at some point, and we learned from those experiences that it was better to play it safe. But here’s the thing – if we keep listening to those voices and give them all our power, never challenging them or stepping into more courageous action – then we will surely miss out on having the life we most deeply want, and may never become the person we’re most capable of being.
So, how do we break free from the grip of self-doubt and start living our best life? Read on to journey with me and learn how I did it.
Bidding Farewell to Booze
First things first, I had to let go of the parts of my lifestyle that were getting in the way of my clarity and confidence. For years, alcohol kept me stuck in a cycle of not trusting myself. Every time I told myself I would only drink a little, or take a break for a while, but ultimately gave in to the temptation and popped another cork – I was letting myself down. This pattern completely eroded my self-esteem and any confidence that I could keep my word to the people who matter most of all in my life (including me). So, I had to take a hard look at the role drinking played and ultimately decided that living without it was the best way to honor (and believe in) all the dreams I have for myself and my kids.
I'm not saying you have to swear off drinking to have the life you want — I’m just suggesting that we all have to take an honest look at our self-limiting beliefs and life blocks, which might include why and how you drink. It’s been a necessary step in mining through what it is I need to get where I want to go, and my guess is there’s probably a treasure trove of stuff waiting there for you too. And trust me – it's gold.
Reworking Worthiness
Next, I had to rework my mindset and start acting like I believed in myself and the vision I had for my life (no matter how big and bold it might be). To do this, I had to let go of the idea that perfection equals happiness, and just start living imperfectly. I had to accept that I am who I am – quirky, neuro-atypical, socially awkward, beautifully weird – and I had to embrace all of it as what makes me unique, instead of seeing these parts of myself as flaws.
I did this by surrounding myself with people and messages that uplift, inspire, and affirm all my potential. I listened to like-minded podcasts, joined Facebook groups, made like-minded friends, hired life coaches, and blazed my way through dozens of books that encouraged me to love and become my best self. Finding community and a network of others who cheer me on (rather than bring me down) was so, so vital to letting go of all my self-doubts.
I have to say too, it wasn’t easy, since I had to set some hard boundaries and change relationships that didn’t feel supportive enough along the way as well. Saying no to things that didn’t bring me joy or align with my values was pretty difficult at first. But ultimately, learning to treat myself as someone who deserved the life I want (even when I didn’t really believe it yet) – well, that was a massive step to get me where I am today. And now there’s nowhere else I’d rather be!
The World is Waiting for You too
You too are capable of amazing things and can ditch self-doubts that get in the way of the life you want. When you break down the blocks holding you back, begin believing in yourself, and start claiming your own worth, the universe truly does start to align with you in the best of ways. So dream big, mom. Take messy action and watch as your wildest dreams begin to unfold.
And hey, I'm here to help you every step of the way. Whether you're struggling with self-doubt or looking to change your relationship with alcohol too, I’m here and will walk with you every step of the way. Together, we can unlock your own fullest potential and help you create a life that you don’t ever need to break free from again.
